Essential Character Traits of a Godly Boyfriend

A godly partner should possess a character defined by self-control, integrity, and a deep reverence for God that governs every aspect of his lifeBDOC 6.26+1. When seeking a life companion, it is essential to look beyond a winning exterior and focus on the noble traits that indicate a heart transformed by divine grace18MR 313.1+1.

Core Character Traits

• Pure and Manly Integrity: He must be a man of undeviating veracity, diligent, aspiring, and honestLYL 24.2+1. His record should be pure, showing that his love is of a noble, elevated character rather than a mere emotional fondnessLYL 23.1.

• Self-Control and Religious Principle: A godly man will not be moved by every temptation but will possess the strength of principle to stand for Jesus in all circumstancesBDOC 6.26. He will demonstrate that religious principle characterizes his entire life, not just his time in the house of God Matthew 5:19BDOC 6.26.

• Kindness and Gentleness: You should seek someone who possesses the attributes of Christ’s character, such as patience, kindness, mercy, and long-sufferingDG 87.2+1. These virtues are the fruit of the Spirit and are essential for a happy, peaceful union Galatians 5:22-234MR 356.3.

His Relationship with Others

• Respect for His Mother: A vital indicator of a man’s future treatment of his wife is how he treats his motherAH 47.2. If he does not respect and honor her, he is unlikely to manifest true respect, love, and attention toward a wife Ephesians 6:2AH 47.2.

• Reserved and Modest Deportment: A man of God will maintain a high moral tone and becoming dignity, avoiding undue familiarity or a spirit of flirtationAH 55.1+1. He will be circumspect in his words and actions, guarding the barriers of reserve2TT 235.2.

Spiritual Maturity and Guidance

• Submission to God's Will: A sincere Christian will not advance his plans without knowing that God approves his course, feeling that God must choose for himCCh 112.1+1. He will seek to do the will of the Father in all things Matthew 7:21NL 36.3.

• Respect for Individuality: He will not seek to exercise arbitrary control or demand that you surrender your judgment and conscience to himLYL 23.1+1. Instead, he will encourage you to preserve your individuality and honor the Savior’s claims as supremeLYL 23.1.

• Openness and Honesty: He should act a noble part by being frank and open, especially regarding the counsel of parents or guardiansAH 57.3. Underhandedness and secret communications fail to manifest the integrity required of a child of GodAH 57.3.

Practical Habits

• Health and Diligence: Godly traits include an appreciation for useful labor and a rejection of indolence3T 151.3+1. He should be one who values his physical and mental health as a means to serve God more effectively1MCP 295.2+1.

• Sound Judgment: He must use good common sense and deliberate caution rather than being led by blind passion or love-sick sentimentalism1MCP 295.2+1. A man who follows impulse rather than reason is likely to make shipwreck of his faith18MR 303.4+1.

True affection overlooks mistakes and seeks the happiness of the other, continually nourished by the dews of heavenLYL 30.3+1. By looking to Jesus and patterning after His character, a young man will grow into a wise and strong companion4MR 356.3+1.