1 Peter 3:4

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

True adornment is inward, the hidden person of the heart clothed in what does not decay, even a meek and quiet spirit that is of great price in the sight of God. What does not decay means imperishable and enduring, unlike outward decoration, fine clothing, jewelry and bodily beauty which perish. Of great price means God Himself highly esteems it above gold, pearls, costly clothing, wealth and worldly honor. It forbids making outward display the adorning, such as elaborate hair, gold and jewels, and costly or showy dress copied from the world for admiration. This spirit is moral excellence after the pattern of Christ, the fruit of the Spirit in love, patience, gentleness, goodness and self-control, which governs temper, tongue and conduct and brings peace, contentment and usefulness.

Inward Adornment Defined

True adornment is inward rather than outward, the hidden person of the heart in that which does not corrupt, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is of great price in the sight of God. It is lasting rather than decorative, a meek and quiet spirit that God greatly values above outward decoration. It is a beautifully balanced character to be cultivated and modeled, directing toward purity and holiness, and simplicity of dress and conduct reflects that eternal values matter more than external display. The heavenly adorning to be secured and maintained in all duties and walks of life is this hidden inner life of incorruptible gentleness and calmness of spirit, a course of life and conduct marked by neatness, cleanliness, taste, order, sobriety, meekness, propriety, modesty, and devotion to family and to God, giving influence for good on earth while prized in heaven.

That which is not corruptible means imperishable and enduring, an inner character that does not decay like outward adornment. Clothing, jewelry, good looks, and bodily beauty perish, while a meek and quiet spirit and beautifully balanced character do not. A person's worth before God is not measured by dress or outward display but by this imperishable inner character. True beauty is the hidden person made lovely with what does not decay, like the beauty of the lily put into the heart, bringing the peace of God and contentment, while beauty of face, dress, wealth, power, glory and fame cannot make happy. Children therefore are to find beauty in natural, unaffected simplicity rather than attention-seeking, praise of appearance or actions, or showy dress which fosters vanity and envy, and are to be taught to seek character beauty instead of outward display.

Of great price means God Himself highly estimates it, He who as King of kings and Lord of lords possesses all the treasures of the universe counts this soul-beauty most lovely and precious. Those thus adorned are more precious in His sight than gold or silver or precious stones, than pearls and costly clothing, than fine gold or the golden wedge of Ophir, than wealth, luxury, worldly honor, and outward polish. Heaven looks at moral worth and counts character precious by inward adorning, while costly clothing, outward decoration, personal attractions and good looks sink into insignificance in comparison. Meekness adorns the soul and joins finite humanity to God, whereas outward beauty adorns only the mortal body, and those who put on Christ and walk in meekness and humility are truly well adorned. This adorning is made manifest in the home circle by a gentle spirit, kindness, and peace, without trifling, cheap, fretting, unkind, rash or faultfinding speech, and by services of love and Christian courtesy that bring happiness to the family.

The ideal is illustrated after the manner in the old time of the holy women who trusted in God and were in subjection to their own husbands. They did not fear being counted inferior because of appearance, choosing inward beauty above outward display and setting aside needless ornaments for modest, simple dress rather than extravagance. Remembering humanity's fallen condition and the cost of redemption leads to humility, and wearing gold to improve outward appearance is contrary to turning from worldly display. Jesus is the pattern of this humility, meek and lowly, and those who would be with Him in heaven must be like Him on earth and give up what belongs to the world, for elaborate trimmings and showy ornaments conflict with following Him.

The verse is simple, direct instruction from God, a plain command requiring self-denial and humility and modesty and simplicity of conversation, deportment, and apparel. The human heart is not in harmony with it and human reasoning seeks to evade it. In every age a majority of professed followers disregard it. Carnality and pleasure-loving lead to much outward show while this inward adorning is neglected, and pride, vanity, and love of display show that some care more about outward dress than the heavenly adornment.

Outward Display Renounced

The outward adorning must not be made the adorning, for plaiting of hair, wearing of gold, and putting on of apparel are forbidden as the place where beauty is sought. Bracelets and rings, chains and pins, jewels and pearls, costly array and expensive ornaments add nothing to character and add nothing to influence. Trimmings, ruffles, tucks, bows, ribbons, laces, embroidery, gaudy or extravagant dress, and copying of worldly fashions for display belong to that outward display which perishes, in contrast to the hidden person of the heart which does not perish. Decking the person with jewels and luxuries is idolatry showing love for things thought to give personal worth, proving the heart lacks inward adornment, misrepresenting truth, and marking inward poverty and lack of spirituality. The lasting ornament is a meek and quiet spirit of great value in God's sight, made manifest in the home by gentleness, kindness, peace, and services of love and Christian courtesy without trifling, cheap, or fretting speech, and children are to be taught to form this Christlike character instead of being shaped by worldly customs.

In place of superfluity and display, dress is to be modest, plain, neat, clean, durable, healthful, simple, becoming, and appropriate, arranged upon the person with order and taste and free from needless ornament and offensive odor. True refinement does not seek satisfaction in adorning the body for display, but a sensible woman appears to best advantage in simplicity of apparel, and refined taste and a cultivated mind are shown in choosing simple appropriate clothing. Simplicity is not carelessness or slackness, for those who accept truth after careless habits increase influence tenfold when elevated and sanctified to neatness, order and good taste, since God is a God of order and is not pleased with distraction, filthiness or sin. Cheap fabrics that waste means gain nothing, and unnecessary decoration adds needless work while neat, clean, plain clothing helps keep thoughts pure and sweet. Modesty of demeanor and simplicity of dress express inward character and help protect from danger, and gaudy clothing reveals vanity and weakness while modest simple dress reflects godly character. Faithfulness does not mean taking pains to be gazingstocks by dressing different from the world, yet if modest and healthful dress leaves wearers out of fashion they must not change to be like the world, but with noble independence and moral courage humbly pursue a straightforward course irrespective of applause or censure, clinging to right for its own merits; and if the world introduces a modest, convenient, healthful mode in accordance with the Bible, adopting it changes no relation to God or the world.

Those who wear reform dress must obtain and maintain the inner adorning as its recommendation and ornament, for the heavenly adorning to be secured in all duties and walks of life is the hidden inner life of incorruptible gentleness and calmness of spirit of great price in God's sight. That ornament is a course of life and conduct marked by neatness, cleanliness, taste, order, sobriety, meekness, propriety, modesty, and devotion to family and to God, giving influence for good on earth while prized in heaven. Let the dress be a recommendation and ornament to them and they to it, and without obtaining and maintaining these qualities they should lay the reform dress off rather than disgrace it by want of them.

Obedience frees money and time for God, for costly ornaments, rich trimmings, and expensive clothing must not take priority over offerings for God's work and help for the poor and needy. Money spent on self-gratification and outward display is to be saved and turned toward supporting God's work and people in need, and dressing simply and tastefully leaves more means and time to help poorer women. Esteeming inward character as highest in value supports self-denial and giving up unnecessary display, while plainness frees means, time, health, and mind for Scripture, prayer, and usefulness.

The teaching on dress is part of the Bible's plain rule to be taught directly from Scripture and warns against love of dress and extravagant spending. Yet dress is not now to be made a test of faith or a source of controversy, for zeal for outward dress rules that breeds controversy and distracts from appointed work is not evidence of true piety but shows lack of the valued spirit. Inward piety matters more than uniform rules about outward dress, and outward modesty can conceal a heart that still needs this adorning.

Christlike Character in Life

The meek and quiet spirit is moral excellence itself, the likeness of Christ formed within and the fruit of the Spirit — love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and self-control. It is an inward, imperishable adornment that reverses the affections, so that what was once loved is hated and what was once hated is loved. The proud and self-assertive become meek and lowly in heart, the vain and showy become serious and unobtrusive, the drunken become sober and the impure pure, laying aside pride, vanity and the customs and fashions of the world. Obtaining it requires putting self second and giving Christ and truth first place, being thorough and faithful even in smaller matters, resolutely overcoming unamiable traits, and seeking a personal experience in which Christ is formed within as the hope of glory. A heart made a home for Jesus bears His tenderness, sympathy and love rather than envy or revenge, cultivated through cheerful trust, humble faith and walking in the path of duty.

Wherever cherished in the heart this grace of humility governs the whole person and expresses itself outwardly in dignified, decorous deportment, appropriate dress, words, conduct and chaste conversation. Conversation becomes elevated, courteous, kind, benevolent, sincere and true, without condescending to foolish flattery, with faithfulness in dealing with fellow believers and with the world. Kind words, good works, sympathy and thoughtful care for others are of greater worth than rich trimmings, costly clothing or outward display. In dress it means avoiding superfluity and display while keeping clothing neat, modest, not gaudy, and arranged with order and taste, with special sacred regard for the Sabbath and the worship of God so the separation from the world is too plain to be mistaken. Those thus governed become living epistles known and read by all, salt that has not lost its savor, with enlarged influence and usefulness testifying to practical godliness.

This adorning is made manifest in the home circle by a gentle spirit, kindness and peace, without trifling, cheap or fretting speech, and by services of love and Christian courtesy that bring happiness to the family. It bears contradiction without rage, for pride, self-rule and false sensitiveness die when self is crucified. It controls impulsive feelings and faultfinding speech, making a person a help and blessing and a peacemaker in the church, while an uncontrolled spirit harms both the person and others. It is shown in self-control and gentle, peaceful speech that prevents much hurt and discord, and it cannot be replaced by excuses about being sensitive or quick-tempered but comes as the old self dies and Christ takes possession. Even when firmness is necessary to stand in defense of truth it puts away a combative, independent, too-positive and exacting manner that irritates rather than pacifies, carries points to extremes and presses every advantage.

Possessing this spirit requires a thorough transformation, formed by Christ's grace in the heart and character. Unnecessary adornment can reveal an attempt to make up for lacking it, for it does not earn a place in heaven but fits a person for the home Christ has prepared, as Christ redeems those who come to Him and the Spirit sanctifies them. It is cultivated by earnestly seeking God's blessing and letting the Holy Spirit dwell in the heart bringing love and joy, so that as disposition and character change the blessing can be passed on with beneficial influence. It is cultivated by seeking first the kingdom of God and placing self under the bright beams of the Sun of Righteousness so selfishness and worldliness are expelled, cultivating piety together with human sympathy and love rather than remaining cold and aloof, and using daily circumstances to represent Jesus. Beholding God's great love in the gift of the Saviour produces Christlike love as a living principle, drawing the heart out to needy souls and making truth become spirit and life. Peace comes from learning of Christ and practicing His meekness and lowliness, hiding self in Him and constantly beholding Him until the heart becomes like Him in self-denial, taking up the cross and following the sinless, perfect example in thought, word and deed.

The same inward adornment governs worship and service, which are to be marked by humility and repentance from a cleansed heart depending on God's power and grace rather than reliance on forms, ceremonies or musical accomplishments. It stands as the Bible rule against showy dress that distracts worshipers from God during sacred service, for outward dress and deportment reveal the condition of the heart. True religion is shaped by communion with Christ and the indwelling Holy Spirit, not by outward display, noise, gestures or imitation of human leaders. True ministers prize this inward working above outward adorning and are content with simplicity, giving principal attention to study of the Word and praise from the heart instead of making much of popular singing, with no guile in the mouth and truth practiced in daily life. Those who meet to plan God's work must earnestly seek it, with tidy dress appropriate to the occasion and no careless manner or disrespectful words, because the Lord is present, while untidiness shows lack of reverence for coming into His presence.

Home and Child Training

The hidden person of the heart in imperishable beauty is more valuable to God than outward decoration, and the meek and quiet spirit that does not decay is of great price in His sight as part of a beautifully balanced character. Christian mothers are to cultivate that character themselves and make their own lives a living example for children to copy, directing them by teaching and example toward purity and holiness. They are to guide their children carefully and guard them from influences that would lead them away from the Saviour, storing their minds with useful knowledge and leading them to self-sacrificing labor for the good of others so this character is formed in them. Time spent on needless stitching and fashion while neglecting spiritual instruction of self and children, and laboring only for things that look attractive, is contrary to the verse, for mothers should give time to helping children develop gentleness and quietness of spirit which God values greatly.

True adorning is more precious to God than gold or silver or precious stones, and is shown in the home circle by a gentle spirit, kindness, peace, and loving service and Christian courtesy that bring happiness to the family. It avoids trifling, cheap, or fretting speech and shows a consistent walk in which heaven is interested and which benefits others. Even when firmness is required to stand for truth, it puts away a combative, independent, irritating, domineering manner that talks too much and presses every advantage to extremes. In the family, especially toward husband and children who oppose the truth, it meets trial with humility, love, tenderness, forbearance, and sweet affection, yielding personal judgment where truth need not be sacrificed and passing over many things in order to win, pacify, and heal rather than to hurt and repulse.

Children are most attractive when natural and unaffected, and their beauty should come from unaffected simplicity rather than attention-seeking. They must be taught not to seek display in dress, looks, words, or actions, but to seek beauty of character, self-denial, self-control, and childlike trust in Jesus instead of pride and vanity and instead of being shaped by worldly customs and display. Like the beauty of the lily put into the heart, this beauty of character brings the peace of God and contentment and lifts a person high in moral value with Him, while beauty of face, dress, wealth, power, glory and fame cannot make happy. Earnest training to possess this inward character matters more than embroidered or otherwise adorned clothing, for outward ornamentation is of little consequence by comparison with what God greatly values.

For children this forbids special notice, repeating their clever sayings before them, praising their appearance and doings, dressing them in expensive or showy clothes, and educating them for worldly praise and honor. Such outward adorning and praise encourage pride in them and awaken envy in their companions, whereas the great object parents should seek is forming beautiful characters God approves by cultivating the heart and character which are of lasting value. Parents must restrain their own inclinations in expenditure of means on dress, houses, furnishings, provision for appetite, and pleasing guests, since these do not make the lady or the gentleman, and must deny selfish desires and train children with firm, kind, daily restraint to walk humbly with God, to do justice and judgment, to overcome self-love, self-admiration, self-gratification and self-indulgence, and to make the cause of Christ first, so every faculty is developed into solid, well-balanced, noble character for usefulness. Children should be guided through patient, prayerful care toward this lasting, heavenly adornment rather than being shaped for worldly praise or ambition.

A child trained aright and possessing this inward adornment of a meek and quiet spirit, which is precious to God and of great worth, will shine in the courts of the Lord. Such right training fits for Heaven and gives fitness for heaven, and this fitness is the reason home influences should make home the most attractive place so children love goodness and turn from vice with horror. This character forming the mold of life is to be received in the home, where a wife who has this good spirit is loved by the Lord though she should correct faults that make family life unhappy, and where a father's hasty, severe utterances hurt wife and children and keep his daughter from gaining it.

Heavenly Worth and Blessing

The One who made everything lovely that the eye rests upon is Himself a lover of the beautiful, and He counts beauty of character precious above all outward attractiveness. The hidden person of the heart that does not decay is true beauty in His estimate, and the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit is of great price in His sight, valued above costly dress, pearls, gold, and every earthly advantage or effort to beautify the body. It is meekness in harmony with the heavenly angels, purity and simplicity like the quiet graces of the flowers and the natural simplicity and purity of the lily, which surpasses bodily adornment made for display. That inward adorning does not lessen true dignity of character nor make a person less lovely in this world.

It is a jewel of inestimable value worn with heavenly grace, attractive even in this world and prized by heaven. It is esteemed of great price by the heavenly angels and above all by the heavenly Father, making a person precious in Heaven's sight, and fine or costly clothes do not raise a person in others' estimation as much. Those who wear it are fitted to be welcome guests in the heavenly courts and to enter there. It is an imperishable ornament that never decays, the richest dress in His sight, promoting the happiness of all around in this life and shining with undimmed luster in the immortal future.

Heeding it gives freedom from much trouble, fitness for the higher life, and preparation for the higher school during this life of test and trial. It brings favor with both God and Jesus Christ the Saviour, who possesses all the treasures of the universe as King of kings and Lord of lords, and it is obtained by keeping spiritual discernment clear and earnestly cultivating the traits of character He so highly estimates. Instead of squandering life's brief probation in needless labor for display, mind and heart are constantly improved in intellectual and moral strength, growing through faith rooted beneath outward appearances, Bible study, secret communion with God, and meditation on heavenly things. So formed, not merely assumed but naturally developed from Christ's life in the soul and reflected in Christlike character, it makes lives useful and happy, gives influence for good that makes the lives of others better and points them toward God and heaven, and becomes a blessing to the world and an honor to the Creator.

Obtaining it lifts a person high in moral value with God and brings His peace and contentment, like the beauty of the lily put into the heart. It gives a calm, considerate, cheerful temper that is not made irritable by sickness nor unsettled by weather or circumstances, joined to patient, kind, enduring love, consistent also with a bright and happy disposition rather than painful solemnity. It is formed through a virtuous, honest, and true life, including useful work and bearing responsibilities, and it does not perish with age, illness, or affliction. Beauty of face, dress, wealth, power, glory, fame, and fashionable beauty cannot make a person happy.

Devoting much labor, time, thought, and money merely to make the outward appearance attractive diverts the mind from matters of eternal consequence and leaves the heavenly graces uncultivated. It gives precious hours that should be devoted to prayer and study of the Scriptures to unnecessary preparation of apparel, gratifies pride and fosters love of appearance and praise, obscures vision so that faults that mar the inner life and stain the soul are not discerned, forms stumbling blocks that bar the way for self and others from safe paths, and is idolatry of self. Such needless display is a waste of the Lord's goods that will meet a sad reckoning, for it does not pay to neglect inward adorning — knowing the will of God and doing it, and storing the mind with the rich treasures of His word to shed light upon others. Its value is revealed in the great day when the character of the life's work is made known and rewarded accordingly, when turning to God in sincerity and aiming for the crown of life brings an imperishable crown and lasting success before heaven, while successes in common affairs quickly pass away.

Witness Influence and Warning

True worth is inward, not outward, for humble, often travel-stained clothing covered a heart rich in divine love and adorned with a meek and gentle spirit precious to God, while splendid garments of silver and gold covered a corrupt and cruel heart full of depravity, deceit, and daily wickedness. Beneath that humble exterior was the Lord of life and glory, revealing mercy and divine power in works no human could do, yet eyes blinded by sin judged by outward appearance and refused to acknowledge Him. The same outward judgment bowed down and worshiped Herod as a god because his appearance, eloquence, and dazzling display captivated perverted senses, without penetrating the vain show to read the inward wickedness beneath.

Judging by externals misses moral worth, for strict economy and poverty may leave their impress upon apparel while the whole being glows for God and for service, with hard-earned means spent to benefit others and lead souls to truth, together with genuine knowledge and experience in godliness, pleasing and sympathetic address, and earnest self-denying usefulness. Making outward adorning more important than inward adorning produces deficiency in estimating character, judging by dress and what meets the eye of taste and fashion rather than discerning the image of Christ and moral excellence of humble meekness. Those far removed from Christ do not reflect His image and therefore cannot recognize His image in others, losing the voice of the True Shepherd, misconstruing earnest interest and rejecting the talents and help offered for the great harvest when it comes in poverty and humility and not as expected. So the Jewish nation turned from Christ because His coming was marked by poverty and humility, and this failure calls for humbling of heart and correcting of ways, lest judgment come, with true discernment requiring living in the light and spirit answering to spirit. For workers in God's work this adorning means a pure and unselfish life, with the heart inclined by the abundant measure of Christ's Spirit to obedience, justice, purity, and true holiness, free from self, self-pleasing, likes and dislikes, and the worldly spirit, and governed by pure Christian principles with discernment of excellence of character.

Disregarding this plain command to inner adorning instead of outward display leads to adopting the fashions, customs, and principles of the world, so that vital godliness gives place to dead formalism and the presence and power of God are withdrawn to remain only with humbler worshipers who obey the sacred word, and in this way one denomination after another loses its early power. The chapter gives a message of great importance to ministers of the gospel and to ministers' wives, calling all who claim to be ministers to search deep and make clean work for eternity for the benefit of their own souls. Dangers will follow ministers, and often come from unsanctified, unconverted companions, so every minister is to labor for such a companion with zeal to be shown in the churches also, for unless the convicting, converting power of the gospel searches the hearts of ministers and their families, there will be an irreligious element in their homes.

Every one whose name is on the church roll is under solemn obligation to reveal this inward adorning by living the Christ-life, walking in the light and cooperating with Him by making known what He has revealed and the advantage of following His example. Their lives are to show the truth's power to sanctify and ennoble, so that the truth appears in its power and is shed abroad into dark places, revealing the sanctification of the truth. Wherever the grace of humility is cherished as inward adorning of highest value, it governs the whole person and expresses itself outwardly in dignified, decorous deportment, appropriate dress, words, conduct, and chaste conversation, making believers living epistles known and read by all, signs in the world and salt that has not lost its savor, with enlarged influence and usefulness testifying to practical godliness and perpetuating saving knowledge. In the true Christian the outward adorning is always in harmony with inward peace and holiness, so character is known by its fruits, and when members live in this righteousness the church is established in orderly, steadfast, immovable faith with the Bible as standard, receiving rich currents of grace from heaven to impart light, proclaim the truth in power, and keep God's commandments in deed and truth as laborers together with God.